How much porn is too much porn?

Every magazine, web page or television programme I turn to at the moment seems to revolve around the subject of sex, or more specifically, porn. From The Sex Education show on Channel 4, on which they showed members of the public pictures from music videos and asked if it was porn or popstar, to the latest ‘Muff March’ against designer vaginas, the subject of porn is no longer just affecting teenage boys. So what is it that is getting everyone in such a fuss?

From as long as porn has been available there have been girlfriends, fiancées and wives standing nearby strongly objecting. Most girls claim it’s degrading, my best friend even deems it ‘disgusting’ but I personally have never been that fussed as to whether my boyfriend watches it or not, as long as what he watches doesn’t affect our sex life. However I can’t deny porn doesn’t affect my personal life, and this is the problem that most people seem to be talking about. If the world is pushing for catwalk models to be more ‘real’ then why should porn be an exception?

For one porn certainly encourages girl on girl action, with the amount of teenage girls posting photos of themselves with their tongue down another girl’s throat onto facebook, only for guys to post sleazy comments underneath, on the rise each year. Alongside that little problem there is also the very big, very noticeable problem of the now infamous ‘designer vagina’.

Most porn stars boast well groomed, perfectly shaped private parts and more and more girls and women are striving to have the same. I think I can safely say I am in the minority within my friendship group having never been brave enough to have a bikini wax and most of them opt for a ‘brazillian’ or a ‘hollywood’, in other words, everything off. This isn’t unusual either, I recently read an agony aunt letter complaining that shaving it all off made this women feel ‘like a child’, but her boyfriend was desperate for her to give it a go. So with no hair down there, we are all fully exposed.

Cue the designer vagina. Plastic surgery isn’t a subject that shies away from the media and with the increasingly popular genital surgery seeping its way into news stories we are only becoming more aware of the options. With women complaining they ‘hate’ the way their genitals look, surgeons offer a not-so-cheap solution. With labiaplasty (trimming or removing the labia) and vaginal rejuvenation (tightening) as options for those unhappy women, changing even your most intimate parts to fit in with what is ‘normal’ is becoming common.

My one rule still stands: if the porn my partner watches affects me then I have a problem. For those women who feel threatened or feel the need to compare to porn stars, let’s not let ugly vaginas become the new fat. It took women years to get it into men’s heads that big can be beautiful, let’s not get to the point where a non-surgically enhanced vagina is ugly. Tell your boyfriends and girlfriends, even organise your own ‘muff march’, but whatever you do don’t let porn ruin your body or your sex life.

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